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Love Letter to the World (A Wish)…

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I love it when you smile… when you look upon others without judgment, with a kind heart…

And I love the look on your face when you receive kindness from others…
I love it when you make your children your #1 priority in life and the way they, in turn, make the world a better place for others, because of your efforts…
I love it when you’re not selfish; because you recognize that being self-absorbed means you fail to see the potential in others or contribute to anyone besides yourself…
I love when you give without expectation of reciprocity or praise…
I love when you consider the needs of others above your own feelings; because you understand your feelings aren’t always the most important thing in the world…you understand others have needs that may outweigh your feelings, feelings which may actually be very self-serving…
I love that you know happiness comes from the inside, not outside, so you don’t spend time forcing others to do things just to ‘make you happy’…
I love that you fulfill yourself and strive to be a better person, not just because it makes you better, but because you know you are contributing something positive to the world through your existence…
I love that you never hurt people, lie, or try to make others feel guilty…
I love when you choose to lift people up, rather than gossip or look down your nose at them…
I love how you always endeavor to find the good in things…
I love the way you support the goals of others, rather than tear them down, even when they don’t agree with what you think…
I love your humility, work ethic, and honesty…especially during tough situations…
I love your generosity of spirit and your humanity…
But most of all, I love the way you love me back 🙂

Kindness…it’s what’s for breakfast…

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Blog 9 PicI’ve always liked the phrase ‘you get what you give’, but there’s a kink…

You don’t always get what you give when it comes to kindness.  Ouch.  I just ripped that statement off like a Band-Aid…

No worries, there’s a silver lining…it doesn’t have to impact you in a negative way.

Is it frustrating to be treated like crap when you’re being kind to someone?  Are there times when it feels as though there is a complete lack of justice in the world, especially when some seem to make it their life’s mission to make other people miserable by being mean, rude, or uncompassionate?

When our frustration stems from the inability of another person to return our kindness, than our kindness wasn’t given freely.  It came with strings attached…strings of expectation.  In fact, those individuals necessitate greater compassion, rather than frustration.  It is incredibly sad when a fellow human being doesn’t have the capability to receive kindness.

Damage manifests many ways and although we are all damaged goods to varying degrees and crossroads, we are also each on a unique journey of learning and healing.  There is no certain formula for the amount of time or circumstance required for a person to heal, to be healthy.  Unfortunately, some damage runs too deep; intersections with connections never made, when a lifetime isn’t enough time to fix all the issues.  This kind of hurt continues to haunt and spread pain.  Healing is as complex and unique as a fingerprint.

Motivations for kindness are the key.  Kindness isn’t something we give because we expect people to return it by treating us the same way.  Kindness isn’t for show or a method for getting into Heaven.  Kindness is just because.  Because a kind person is the type of person we choose to be, regardless of circumstance.  We strive to say with honesty that we treat everyone with kindness not because it makes us better than someone else, but just because it is in our power to do so; because we choose to put kindness out into the universe, just because we believe kindness matters.

A truly kind spirit is one that cares, loves, nurtures, and chooses to propagate kindness just because.  Kindness is its own hope, with the capacity to soak into souls like a summer rain into parched earth.  Let’s do ourselves and the world a favor and be a source of expectation-less kindness…

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Meditation: Affect…

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Blog 8 ImageConsider the power of the individual…

Existence is the constant, creative process of becoming, never finished, always evolving. We must take into account we are the makers of things; moments, mergers, interactions, and results.

The undertone resonating in life is that things are causal; they impact and ripple in a pond of complex interconnections, beating and banging into one another, manifesting worlds. We cannot ignore the aspects of being, content instead to classify and compare as if everything followed similar patterns.  Patterns do not answer the question why.  They are surface-symbolic, only the aftereffect end-points in a state of instability.  Moments in life have the power and potential to change us forever and as we change, we change things.  They are the inevitable changes spurred by innumerable variables of assemblage; consistently arrange new complexities of unfathomable proportions.

Never underestimate the power of the moment…your behavior, choices, and internal dialogue matter.  In each individual there lies a historical blueprint of existence they extend unknowingly into the world to relate with things and others, creating new worlds.  The discoveries of one generation impact those coming after and almost certainly in ways they could not have imagined.  Through the ordinary, the day-to-day, the extraordinary is formed unpredictably and the genealogy of affect is manifest.

March 2012:  A high school student was involved in a fatal car accident.  She was not the fatality.  She hit a pedestrian attempting to cross the highway in the dark.  As I passed the scene I saw her, head in hands, sitting on the shoulder of the road, staring at the sheet-covered body.  I contemplated the scope of affect in relation to those involved, including myself and the long line of cars creeping in a grisly procession past the scene.  I considered the remarkable changes to life taking place, actively, in the moment; the presence of everything arriving at once, unfolding and potent.  It was an intimate collision of histories, experience, choice, and happenstance, so remarkably unstable and messy.  Looking at the two bodies, one living, one dead, I reflected on my own life and how easily we, as individuals, are created and recreated in a breath.  The tendrils produced by such constant recreation generate remarkable, unknown results.  Tendrils, moving outward, extending, into communities and individual lives to create change, putting into motion a grand evolution of landscape.

And landscapes are different, because situations and encounters are different.  No two are ever produced identical, nor can they be reproduced the same.  Affects are at work within the abstract nothingness that fills spaces between events; the things that make up real life, disorganized and elusive.  Influence is collected, stored, processed and released anew as something else.

You can be better than a moment ago…

Affect tears apart the fabric of time, space, and death to reveal the fluidly unpredictable and powerful.  In fact, we are objects interacting with other objects, animate and inanimate, generating constant states of becoming something.  Statistics are therefore confined to averages, because affect says nothing is predictable.  And affect is absolutely correct…